In the child-free community, they would call me a fence sitter – a person who is unsure about whether or not they want to have children one day. Despite this, sometimes aggressively imposed, label, I choose to embrace ambiguity in this area in the same manner in which I approach labeling my sexuality and gender…
It has been a decade since I began pondering the queer nature of my sexuality, ten years that feel like a lifetime when I consider the person I’ve become since those “I kissed a girl and I liked it (way differently than she did)” days. Despite the depth of self-reflection around the queerness of my…
My queer identity is constantly evolving. For too long I resisted this growth process, worrying that my inability to find a perfectly fitting label would cause others to question the validity of my sexuality. So much of my initial journey was consumed by this deep insecurity that the rest of the LGBTQ community wouldn’t find…
I will be coming out for the rest of my life. No setting is safe from this phenomenon. I have to come out everywhere – in the grocery store, at work, when meeting a friend of a friend. The process of coming out is lifelong and dynamic, despite the well-known concept of “a coming out…
There is something deeply inspiring in an act of pure authenticity. My husband coming out as transgender was the purest of such acts. His acknowledgement of his need to live a valid life at all costs began shaping the decisions we would make in the future. There was no more room for inauthentic living in…
Pride was a rite of passage. During my first Pride, back in Baltimore, Md., I remember looking around and feeling completely overwhelmed by simply existing in the same space as thousands of other LGBTQ people at once. It gave a sense of community and context to my identity that I desperately needed. My network was…
My mindset began binary. During the early years of my coming out journey, I felt it mandatory to choose a label within the LGBT acronym. I feared being seen as confused or uninformed and sought to fit in. I needed to convey to others that I was not straight, and I saw the L, G,…
Being silent is the furthest impulse from my nature. When I came out, I didn’t open the closet door; I blew it off the hinges. I threw my own personal Pride parade, painting the town red, then orange, yellow, green, blue and purple. Validating my identity by speaking it out loud was the first step;…
SAN DIEGO — Join The Center for the next Queer, LGB and Trans People of Color Mixer Saturday, April 1 from 6-9 p.m. For a $5 donation, guests will enjoy drinks, dancing and mingling. Partners are welcome and the event is open to those 21 years and older. For more information contact Carolina Ramos at…
A new documentary is taking an in-depth look at what could be America’s first all queer gang. The Huffington Post reports that “Check It,” which is produced by RadicalMedia and actor Steve Buscemi, recalls how three bullied Washington, D.C. teens began the gang (which is also called Check It) in 2005. Today, Check It has…
