Three names that were mentioned early at the 2015 Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast.
Three transgender youth who were taken from our San Diego community far too soon. Three drops in a tragically growing pool that fed an undercurrent of sadness permeating the usually uplifting event.
Sage. Taylor. Kyler.
One Lifetime achievement award celebrated our progress against HIV/AIDS, particularly among people of color. The other honored work that has connected the LGBT and faith communities. Both were well earned and received with energizing speeches. Neither could fully turn heads and hearts from three lifetimes that were ended far too soon, and whose potential achievements will never be known. Might they, too, have written an award-winning essay, earned a scholarship, or been honored with a breakfast?
Sage. Taylor. Kyler.
The mayor of San Diego underscored his commitment to the LGBT community and marriage equality. The first openly lesbian Assembly Speaker, and the first from San Diego, discussed some of our successes in California. The mere mention of her likely successor, the former iMayor, was greeted with applause that couldn’t wait for the full list of dignitaries to be read. Three testaments to the growing power of our community, yet it is still not strong enough to protect three of our most vulnerable.
Sage. Taylor. Kyler.
Nationwide marriage equality could be a Supreme Court decision away. California continues to lead on equality in schools and health care. San Diego International Airport has gender inclusive bathrooms. Three achievements whose trophies shine less for three who will not enjoy them.
Sage. Taylor. Kyler.
Even with heavy hearts, it is appropriate to honor those who have given much to our community. It is good to hear from our leaders, and let them hear from us. Victories need to be celebrated. Not because we are done, but to energize us for the work to come. This year, more than ever, to make sure no one is missing next year.
Sage. Taylor. Kyler.
Threes are great for rhythm in speaking and writing, but in this case three is far too many, and there are far too many more. The rhythm must become a drum beat to action. The majority of Americans who support marriage equality need to support transgender understanding, rights and equality. The conversations can be hard, so give them a fact that can’t be about “phases” or “clothing choices”: up to 50 percent of transgender youth attempt suicide by age 20. Let them know the names of three people they will never have the honor of meeting, who needed their acceptance, not judgement.
Sage. Taylor. Kyler.
