How difficult can it be to maintain health and fitness during a divorce, breakup, or separation? Whatever word you call it, the situation can create havoc for even the best laid plans. Depression, anger, sadness, and a gaggle of other emotions can flood you and make you feel worthless and despondent. How you face the moment can determine the course your health will take.
It is good to bring your inner circle of friends and family together to guide your ship through these choppy waters. These BFF’s and family members can give you support and tell you all the right things to keep you going through your separation. They can put that positive spin on everything and assure you it will be fine. Get out the rolodex and reach out and touch someone.
Keep busy during the days, weeks, and months following your breakup with your significant other. Idle time gives you opportunity to dwell on what went wrong. This can then lead to overeating and a state of depression. Keep the calendar chocked full of events and appointments.
Don’t listen to sad songs or watch sad movies. You might as well be holding a gun in one hand and a bottle of pills in the other. You’re already traumatized enough! Listen to Jimmy Buffet or rent a Marx Brothers movie. You want to rise from that ash pile; not roll around in it!
Make efforts to talk in a civil tone to your (ex) partner who is also going through the same situation as you are. Be certain that you are able to keep it between the lines though. Don’t go into a conversation looking to rip the person’s head off! Take your time before calling or meeting this soon-to-be ex of yours. Get things out in the open so you both can begin moving your wagons down those respective trails again.
Get the emotions out of your system. Do not bottle up any feelings inside yourself. They will eventually come out and they will usually zap your health in the process. Write a poem, keep a diary, cry, scream on the top of a hill, hit a punching bag, or find another release. Once these emotions surface, you can begin the healing process.
Know this is not the end. Know you will fight to live another day. Know you have the power to control yourself and yourself only. Know that you are mortal and that mistakes do happen. Know that there is another beginning out there for you. Know that anything is possible and never give up believing in the impossible.
Know everything’s gonna be alright.
This wellness article is brought to you by that jammin’ guy of one love. That guy with three little birds is Ron Blake and you can get up, stand up with him at rblake5551@hotmail.com.
